PT
EN
BIOGRAPHY
O PODER DA COMPAIXÃO
About the Book
Introduction
Buy the Book
MENTORING
BLOG
Articles & News
Events
In the Media
CONTACT ME
Abrir Menu
Fechar Menu
BLOG
Articles & News

Spill Heart, Not Coffee

by Lisa Polloni
October 10, 2025

Spill Heart, Not Coffee

Over my years as a manager, I’ve learned one truth the hard way: a workplace that doesn’t prioritize compassion and psychological safety isn’t just tough on people, it’s bad for business. These aren’t fluffy buzzwords; they’re the bedrock of a team that thrives, innovates, and sticks around. Drawing from my own journey, a bit of academic nerdiness from my master’s in Positive Psychology at PUC, and some solid research, I want to share how we can create workplaces where people don’t just survive—they shine.

What’s Compassion Got to Do with It?

Compassion at work isn’t about handing out free snacks or tossing around HR’s latest “wellness” sticker campaign. It’s about seeing someone’s struggle and stepping up with real care. I remember a time when one of my team members, let’s call her Ana, was drowning in stress from balancing work and a sick child. Instead of preaching “work-life balance,” I sat her down, listened, and worked out a flexible schedule so she could manage her work and the child necessities. That small act didn’t just help Ana—it built trust across the team.

Compassion means noticing when someone’s off, asking, “Hey, you okay?” and actually meaning it. It’s offering resources, like access to counseling, or just checking in without an agenda. In my experience, these moments of genuine care ripple outward, creating a culture where people feel safe to be human. Research backs this up: compassionate workplaces reduce burnout and boost mental health, making employees feel valued and resilient.

Psychological Safety: The Freedom to Be Real

I first stumbled across the concept of psychological safety during my master’s program, diving into Amy Edmondson’s work at Harvard. She describes it as a space where you can speak up, pitch a wild idea, or admit you messed up without fear of being laughed at or punished. It’s about trust—plain and simple. I’ve seen this in action: in teams where people feel safe, they share bold ideas, catch mistakes early, and collaborate like nobody’s business.

One moment sticks with me. Early in my career, I led a project that was going south fast. I was terrified to admit I’d miscalculated a deadline, but my boss didn’t grill me at the time. Instead, she said, “Okay, what can we learn from this?” That moment of grace didn’t just save my ego—it taught me how to lead with openness. Psychological safety isn’t about lowering standards; it’s about holding people accountable while giving them room to grow.

Compassion and psychological safety are like dance partners: compassion builds the trust that psychological safety needs, and a safe environment makes it easier to show compassion. Together, they create a workplace where people feel seen and heard.

Why Bother? The Real Impact

Here’s why it matters—and it’s not just about warm fuzzies:

Happier, Healthier Teams: Compassionate workplaces cut down on stress and burnout. When people feel cared for, they’re more resilient and connected.

Unleashing Creativity: Psychological safety lets people take risks. I’ve seen teams go from “meh” to mind-blowing when they’re free to experiment without fear.

More Productivity, Less Drama: Gallup’s data shows engaged teams are 23% more profitable and miss work 41% less. That’s not pocket change—it’s proof that caring pays off.

Keeping Great People: When employees feel respected, they stick around. Flexible policies, like letting people work from home when life gets messy, build loyalty.

True Inclusion: Psychological safety amplifies marginalized voices, while compassion tackles unique challenges like discrimination. This is how you build a team where everyone belongs.

How to Make It Happen

For Leaders (Like I’ve Tried to Be)

Be Real: Share your own struggles. I once admitted to my team I was overwhelmed by a project, and it opened the floodgates for honest conversations.

Listen Like You Mean It: When someone’s stressed, ask, “How can I support you?” and follow through. It’s not rocket science—just human.

Celebrate the Mess-Ups: Frame mistakes as learning moments. I’ve said, “That didn’t work, but what’s our next step?” to keep the vibe constructive.

Provide Resources: Offer mental health support or flexible hours. I pushed for our company to fund therapy sessions, and it made a difference.

Train for Empathy: Workshops on listening and cultural sensitivity go a long way. I’ve seen teams transform after a single day of real talk.

For Everyone Else

Check In: Notice a teammate seems off? Ask, “Wanna grab a coffee and chat?” It’s small but powerful.

Make Space for All Voices: If someone’s quiet in meetings, nudge them gently: “Hey, I’d love to hear your take.”

Cheer Each Other On: A quick “Nice job!” builds trust. I’ve seen teams rally around small wins, and it’s magic.

Respect Limits: Not everyone’s comfortable sharing. Honor that, and don’t push.

The Tricky Bits

Compassion vs. Accountability: This comes up every time I mentor or speak at seminars. You can care deeply and still call out poor performance—just do it with empathy, like, “I know you’re trying, but let’s fix this together.”

Cultural Nuances: Compassion looks different across cultures. In some places, public praise feels awkward—learn what works for your team.

Pushback: Some folks think this is “soft.” Show them the numbers—higher retention, better ideas—and they’ll come around.

 Wrapping It Up

Compassion and psychological safety aren’t just nice-to-haves—they’re how you build a workplace that hums with energy, ideas, and loyalty. As a leader, I’ve seen how small acts of care and trust can transform a team. Try modeling empathy, inviting honest dialogue, and making these values part of your DNA. Want a visual? Picture Gallup’s stats: 23% more profit, 41% less absenteeism.

Compartilhar
Share
Compartilhar no Whatsapp
Compartilhar no Facebook
Compartilhar no Twitter
Compartilhar no Linkedin
Read more
Contact me

Feel free to get in touch to learn more about my work and how we can build an environment of empathy and transformation together. I’d be delighted to connect with you.

© Lisa Polloni, 2025